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When You Realize Adults Don’t Have It All Figured Out

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Hello. Hello, everybody. It is time for it to happen. My name is Skip Clark, and ladies and gentlemen, it's time for another edition of Skip Happens. Miss Ray.

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Hello.

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How are you? Here we go.

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How are you today?

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I'm just wonderful. Just glad to be here in the secret location in upstate New York.

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Yes, we're back in studio this week.

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We are.

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Non-separate. It's a secret location. We're back together.

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It is. I love this. Secret location. What's going on? Let's go.

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All right. Well, today I wanted to talk about the um like the glories that we have in life and the sometimes heavy. Yeah. Glories, the victories, and then the sometimes heavy costs that come with that. You know, the the things that we might not consider that that might bite us in the buns.

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Oh, I feel another deep, another deep and heavy conversation coming on. And I love this. So we're talking about the glory, and but there's also the bad side to it.

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Yes. Yeah.

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Okay.

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So have you seen the news lately?

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You know, that's my downfall is I I do watch a lot of news. And I think it's because I want to keep up with everything. I want to know what's going on. I want to be involved. But uh, but you watch the news, and there's really not much in the way of good news, if any.

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Absolutely.

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So it does kind of, but I want to watch it. It's crazy.

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Yeah.

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Why? What are you asking?

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Well, the reason I ask is because we have some big personalities who are going through some things right now that are um dealing with some missing family members. Savannah Guthrie. Yes. Savannah Guthrie. Her mom's missing. And I saw news today that that little John's son is missing. Now, I do want to say that these are unrelated things, like both of them leaving. One of them's unconfirmed. Yeah. Savannah Guthrie's and then two different scenarios. Totally different scenarios, but close. But same circumstance.

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They're gone. They're gone. Yes, they're gonna go. Little John's son is what? He's got to be close to 30.

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Yep. Uh 27.

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27. All right. Now, as opposed to uh Nancy Guthrie, who is Savannah's mom.

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And I believe she's in her 80s.

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Middle 80s. Middle 80s. And she does have some health issues. But it's uh it's really a strange situation. But uh, you know what? I I don't want to downplay any of this because it it's serious shit.

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It's very scary. It's very scary, very scary, very serious.

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It is absolutely. But the um, you know, I think somebody like a Savannah Guthrie, who who we see on TV, who has a voice. We have a voice. Right. Never know. You know what I mean? It's an attention getter to go and do something. For example, somebody took her mom.

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Yeah. Now it's really getting the uh it creates more, yes, and creates more tension because this person has eyes on them, you know what I mean? And then you have this person that's really close to them that's more behind the scenes. I mean, we're not seeing Savannah Guthrie, I mean Savannah Guthrie's mom in the spotlight. We see Savannah. So the fact that we're dealing, she's going through I can't even imagine me either.

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Yeah, but you know what? I mean, they they're playing it up really big, and because it goes back to what I said, I think a minute ago, it's because it's her mom. And god, god forbid that happens to anybody. Absolutely but because of that, and somebody knows that that it's gonna get the attention, the attention getter. Um, you know, and now I understand there could be some ransom notes. Uh, somebody thought I was reading on uh social media earlier today, and I'll take it for what it's worth, because I don't know how you know how accurate.

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Right, and more news is coming out every day. This is very fresh news. So we find out, I know when I was looking at articles earlier, it was like 18 minutes ago, three hours ago, two and a half hours ago, and you're like, oh, this is this is regularly being updated, so the news is continuously coming out.

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So when it comes to watching the news, you really don't watch much news.

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I I'm not one that's gonna yeah, I don't watch much news for sure. Um, but I I think that's a choice. It's you know, there's a lot of negativity, I think. You mentioned that in the news. So I try to I try to steer away from that. I think it's important to to be aware of what's going on and know what's happening.

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Um and there's things we need to know.

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For sure.

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But you know what? There's a ton that we do not need to know because I think it brings us down as humans.

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Definitely. And it's just it's a boundary, like it's there's certain information I'm willing to take in, and others I'm like, you know, I think um I just I I I can't even imagine.

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And you know, I'm thinking about this the more and more I hear as it's updated, as you said, that um, you know, if it was somebody outside of the this is my belief, and you're hearing it here on Skip Happens. Uh, if it was somebody outside of the family, I think they would have had leads by now. They would have had somebody knew what they were doing. Somebody knew that house. Somebody took the camera off the front door. Somebody, you know, they can't get the footage. Somebody knows something, and that indicates to me that there was intention behind that. There was intention, and they need to look into the family a little bit. They need to go a little bit deeper. And I was reading something about a brother-in-law today, but it's not confirmed, of course. You know, as I mentioned, boom, social media. Do you believe it? Do you not believe it? Who knows? Who knows? But, anyways, yeah. Yeah, crazy. Crazy stuff.

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Yes, for sure. Um yeah.

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I know it's got you thinking, right?

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It does. It it has me a little, it has me shocked.

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It does.

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And and the thing is And it really puts things into perspective because of course, with them being bigger personalities, like we mentioned, there's more tension, but this is relatable. Anybody could go missing, you know, and and that's a scary process to go through. So it just it's one of those situations where you it just makes you think.

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It does. It does. Are we safe? Yeah, you know what I mean? Are we safe?

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You would definitely ask those questions when stuff like this happens.

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Do you you yeah, it kind of shifts your perspective and I mean, you know, the studio here, we're in a great neighborhood. But are we safe? Do you think about that? Do you it's when you go home and you never know. You never know who's hiding behind a bush. You don't know who's what's going on. That's it's crazy. Crazy stuff. Yeah, crazy stuff. And that's that was big news.

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Yeah. So I just hope that that both of these people can find their family members soon.

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Yeah. You said little John's uh son, what he you said he was 27. So he he's a young adult. So he must have I think there's other other issues going on.

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Definitely. Um, the article said that he he left um his residence. Um, he seemed disoriented, didn't have a phone on him. So I think because of those circumstances is why it's it's uh the missing person.

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Exactly, exactly. It's it's just the whole thing is just kind of nuts, you know. Just it is, and and Grace is absolutely right. Ignorance is bliss. So yeah, yeah. Thanks for watching, Grace. Giving you a shout-out, girl. Yeah, we love her. All right, so that that's what's going on, but we're talking about the news a little bit, and uh, there's been other things going on.

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We had a huge yes award show this past weekend. We had the Grammys, and there was some some great artists that got some uh phenomenal, well-deserved awards.

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Um I do want to talk to the uh designers of some of these outfits because some of them are a little too scandalous, some of them are and I don't know who is it, Chapel uh Chapel Roan. Her outfit, I mean, she might as just as well gone topless. I'm just saying all she had was if you know what I mean.

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So yeah, I mean it was a a sheer body, it was it was a sheer bodysuit. Oh man.

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Yeah, um I'm like seriously, I'm like, but I get what you're saying.

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Tiana Taylor had like a wraparound situation, and I was like, girl, like there are parts of your body that are just being like barely held in, like, and who did she come out on stage with?

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Um she was presenting, right? And the the tall, um, but I thought she was gorgeous.

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Oh my gosh, it's on the tip of my I know exactly what you're talking about.

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But still, and I'm gonna add how do you uh how do you hold those things in place?

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Well, a lot of tape, a lot of trust.

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I mean, really, it's like you're in front of television cameras and confidence.

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Confidence.

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Yeah, you gotta have confidence. Definitely. You gotta have confidence, definitely. I think that's what it's all about, it's confidence.

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And know that, well, I know a lot of artists also work out, you know, they they take they are on diets, they are taking the measures to make sure that their body is top tier.

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So if I'm working that hard to have that perfect body, or if I got cosmetic surgeries to well, you know, I think they're trying to be somebody they they really aren't. And I believe that uh just be yourself. Just be yourself. There's all sorts of people, all different shapes, sizes, colors, and they're all beautiful in their own way.

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You don't see it as like customizing your character, you know what I mean?

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No, I don't see it that way. No, you gotta be yourself, man.

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Yeah.

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Well, they're trying to make a change, they're trying to make a statement. Uh Justin Bieber coming out on stage. What the hell was that about? Comes out in his boxer shorts, his socks, no shirt. Of course, he's tattooed every inch of his body, he's got a tat on it. But um, I mean, he was trying to prove a point, I guess, or you know, something along those lines. So I I don't know. I don't get it.

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Yeah.

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See, now that's yeah, that's because I am who I am and you are who you are. But and the Grammys, I I thought it I made a comment online that uh I thought it was one of the best shows I've seen in a lot of years. And immediately I get the pushback going, you know, what do you mean? Uh, you know, did you see what Billy Eilish was doing? And did you uh what about uh bad bunny? And uh along those lines, and uh, you know, blah, blah, blah. I'm going, dude, come on, seriously. And then they had the uh they had the balls to go and say, Well, you work in country and western radio. First of all, nobody calls it country and western anymore. It's kind of the country format, it's the genre. Remember that? Right. It's genre, it's country. Right. Country is not uh what it used to be, and we all know that, but it is no longer country and western. And uh, they said, uh, how can you say things like that? And I said, just because I work in country radio, this is what I do in our in our city here, doesn't mean I live in a bubble. You know, I mean, if you know, I don't speak Italian, but I can listen to opera.

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Right.

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Um, how about uh, you know, Spanish, which by the way, we'll talk about that here in a minute with Bad Bunny. But um remember the song Desposito?

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Yep.

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So, and how big of a hit was that? It was huge. And you know what it was all Spanish. Well, there might have been a couple of different versions, but yeah. Go ahead.

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Um I was gonna say with Despacito, that that I believe had Justin Bieber in it.

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Uh yeah, there was there was there was um yes, I forgot about that, but you're right.

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Which I think actually helped aid that in being as successful is having that um that person from do you know what I mean? Like having somebody from this country saying Yeah, that was added to the case. Because when you when you hear like Bad Bunny's not from the US, right?

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So Bunny's from a US territory.

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He is, he's from Puerto Rico, right?

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So, in a sense, right, he is and they're saying with Bad Bunny being at the Super Bowl, it's gonna, you know, this is uh gonna be record-breaking because they have never had an all-spanish halftime show.

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And he just made history on the Grammys for winning an all-Spanish um album of the year. It was the album, it was the whole album was sp in Spanish. And have you listened to the album?

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I have not listened to the album, no. But I I have heard certain songs.

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Yeah.

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And uh it makes me feel good. There's something about the music that makes me want to get up and move.

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Yeah, for sure. Yeah, sure.

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And uh, we're talking about uh the music, for example, with Bad Bunny. When I was uh back in the day, and I many, many, many years um DJing clubs and weddings and things like that, that uh anytime I put on any of the Latin music, the dance floor was packed. Had no idea what the words were because I don't speak Spanish. But the dance floor was packed, and it's just that beat, it's the feel good, it's what it's about.

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Yeah.

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And did you see how many um when it comes to Bad Bunny, what how many likes he has, uh the social numbers are like I've never heard of the billions people.

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He's he has so many streams, and it's it's insane. He's touching people all over the world. Yeah, all over the world. No doubt. And that's where his recognition is coming from, is because he's not just touching our heartstrings, he's touching people all over the world. And one thing that we talked about was before the podcast was, you know, you can't really decide it's hard if you don't speak Spanish to really understand what they're saying. But the cool thing is, is that Bad Bunny for this album that he won, the album cover is of like a plastic lawn chair.

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I saw that.

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And I looked at it and I was thinking about it, and I saw on social media somebody say, you know, how relatable is that plastic lawn chair being just besides woods, like to all of us. Like we can all relate to being go in my backyard. Yeah, at some just saying.

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I got the chair on it.

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We had like a tan version of that, like yeah, exactly.

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I think I got green, white, and blue.

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Absolutely.

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But still, we can all relate, you're gonna be able to do that.

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We can all relate to that, to the imagery. And I think it's he chose to have two chairs, which you know makes you kind of think like, what is there the two chairs there for? You know, is this a couple? So there's love, there's there's it's how you want to take it. Absolutely. You know, you look at that, but it's it's open for interpretation for anybody.

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For anybody, it doesn't matter who you are, you know, what language you speak, what color you are, it doesn't matter. It's open for that. Exactly right. That that's a that's such a smart move. So smart.

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Yeah, yeah. And one thing about him is he's very firm in his beliefs and what he and he's very intentional with his work. You know, he choose he uses his platform to to share his beliefs and his message, and he's just so intentional and so thoughtful um with his work, which I think is Yeah.

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You know, just so many are just so negative about this. And and and I don't I don't understand.

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We live in a very negative world right now, a lot of hate. Um, even at the Grammys, they they threw um some shade at Nicki Minaj, who's been throwing a lot of hate out on social media um on that platform, but even on lower levels, like what you said, like in your comments, you had people who were hating on what you were saying, what you were believing. Um, yeah.

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But it can with my comments, once I said I don't live in a bubble, they kind of stopped. Because I think it's just like, no, you can think what you want. I don't care. I do not live in a bubble. Doesn't because of what I do, going back to that real quick. Uh being a country, you know, program director and on the air in the afternoons. Doesn't mean that's all I listen to. I mean, it's just there's time.

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But you also you understand the work that goes into an artist. It doesn't matter what platform you are, it doesn't matter if you're if you're singing country, if you're singing pop, if you're singing hip hop, it doesn't matter what you're doing. You're putting in so many hours of work to create what you want to create. That's true. It's there's a lot that's going on. So you you understand the game and the work that's being put into that.

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And it's exactly what Jelly Roll did. He put in a lot of time, a lot of hours, and he had the time to do it because he was incarcerated. But the um he took home three Grammys. He was nominated for six, he took home three. I was so excited for him. Uh, for a couple of reasons. Number one, he looked great.

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He did look great.

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This guy's lost over 300 pounds. I'm like, are you kidding me? And from what I understand and what I read, I don't know how true it is because here again it might have been off social media, but uh he's not doing any of the uh weight loss drugs. It was all workout and food and just being really hard on himself.

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Do you want to know um something really interesting? Sure. I read an article about him losing weight, and one thing that he said was that really changed the game for him is when he looked at his relationship with food as an addiction. And he's like, it really shifted my perspective. And he was like, That's interesting, I really had to look at why I was eating and what was making me want to eat. And once I could figure that out, I could I could work on that, you know? And exactly. I was like, wow, that's that's very that's awesome. And he's that's amazing, right?

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I don't know if you heard this or not, but uh real quickly, they no, that's that's great stuff. Uh the three Grammys, they asked him, What are you gonna do with the three Grammys? And what I read today was number one, he was gonna put one in his recording studio. All right. Number two, he was gonna take the one of the another one of the three and give it to the sheriff to put in the jail where he was incarcerated to to say, you know, here, look what I did, look what I accomplished because of what the way you helped me. And then the third one he's giving to his wife, Bunny XO. So how cool is that? I mean, just that's really he's sharing it all, you know.

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Yeah, and putting it in the jail. I'm looking up really quick. There is a country, another country, that's actually implementing singing competitions into their jails to see how that that platform, like that art platform, helps with their their inmates. And do you skip? There were so many women that got themselves together, they put a dress on, they got on that stage and they sing because music is a form of therapy for some people. You know, I I totally relate to that. Listening to music is yeah, just helps me like understand what I'm feeling a little bit better. So I think that jelly roll putting that in the jail, and then I want to figure out what country.

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Yeah, I I get what you're saying, but that to just, you know, that whole thing, just everything about him and faith and uh God, uh all that, you know, everybody's got their own beliefs, and he is a firm believer in that, and he he made it known. And good for him, because everybody's entitled to to give their opinion when it comes to that, too, and and their feelings and their beliefs. It's it's all entirely up to that that particular person.

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I found it. Okay. So Brazil is holding singing competitions in women's prisons in Regio Rio de Janeiro. It's called Voice of Freedom, and it's a program that's used to help boost confidence, create a safe um outlet for people. Yes, this is for women that are that are incarcerated, that are inmates, and um they're providing this for them. So I think that that we're doing allowing people to do that. Um we're not doing competitions. No, the fact that jelly roll is trying to implement that art and that platform.

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Well, he was in a five by eight cell with nothing but a small radio and a little notebook.

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And he And that's what started the magic.

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It did, and it's a lot of magic. And you know what? I just I just hope he keeps it going. And um, you know, just I I'm so nervous that I'm not really nervous, but it makes me think that, you know, how often a lot of these people kind of go back backwards. And hopefully Jelly Roll will maintain that forward motion and continue doing what he's doing. And he's doing a lot of good. He's doing a lot of good, and he's made it known. And he's the first to stand up and say, you know what? I effed up. I effed up. I was selling drugs, I was a thief, I did this, I did that. You know, that's he was he's quick to take accountability and yeah, and now he's you know, he believes in his faith and uh and all is good. So yeah, just great stuff. Great stuff with the Grammys. Amazing, yeah. You know, go ahead.

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Uh kind of a takeaway from the Grammys. I'm excited to see um the big game this weekend with with Bad Bunny to see how he how he does. And yeah.

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Where are you gonna be watching the game, by the way?

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Probably at home with the fam. Okay. Well, you're always well kind of come and hang in the pod zone. But oh yeah, that's I might take you up on that. We love to do like an hors d'oeuvre situation. Oh, okay. Um, you know, chicken wing dip, cheese and crackers.

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We're talking about the the foods for the Super Bowl get together. Yes, and almost everybody did does that, whether you order pizza. Try ordering a pizza on Super Bowl Sunday. Yeah, yeah.

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It's almost like it's almost like trying to order Chinese food on Christmas Eve. It's just impossible. Same idea. It's impossible.

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Yeah. But uh now you watch for the game, or you're just going for bad bunny.

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Me, I'm gonna go. The funny thing about me is that I don't go out of my way to watch football, but when football's on the TV, I just I'm like, come on, guys, let's go. Let's do this. You know, I get too involved and I'm like, wait a second, I don't even know what's going on. So I foresee me probably dipping in and out of the game. Um, I'm gonna want to know who won. Yeah, but I'm I'm definitely gonna be standing there for the halftime show. I'm like that every year.

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I do you turn it up? Halftime comes out every year.

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And I always stand. I never sit on the couch. I always have to like stand and watch what is going on. Um, yeah.

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Yeah, I love that. I love that. And that's coming up. You know, if you're watching this, of course, this is being done at just a few days before the uh the big game. They call it the big game. You know why they call it the big game? Do you know the story behind that?

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I don't know why. Everybody in radio calls it that.

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Because we're not allowed to say Super Bowl.

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Why?

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Because, well, we can say Super Bowl, all right. And I know I have probably some colleagues that are watching this or people that you know that work in the business as well. But uh we can say Super Bowl. We want to talk about, hey, what's going on Sunday? It's the Super Bowl. We can say it that way. But if we have a promotion, for example, our sister station did a promotion where they gave away a television and all that. When you do that, you have to call it the big game because somebody owns the copyright to to the word Super Bowl. You cannot use it.

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Really? Ding ding ding ding.

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Yes, yes. Just thought I'd throw that. But yeah, no.

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That's interesting.

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So in a pr from a promotional promotional standpoint, don't you think that really can make a put a damper on things though? Because why would they Because somebody was a jerk and said, you know what, I'm gonna piss everybody off and I'm gonna copyright. I don't know when that happened. It was a long time ago. But you know, we can, as you know, in the afternoon, I'll say, hey, you know, the Super Bowl's coming up Sunday afternoon, blah, blah. I can do it that way, but I cannot say, hey, we're giving away it's the Super Bowl Sunday giveaway, and we're giving away uh 75-inch television, and you know, and you'll watch Super Bowl. You know, now I'm using it in a promotional sense. Yeah, and we can't do that.

SPEAKER_03:

So wow, yeah, learn something new every day.

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And you know what? You talk about learning, it's a great transition here uh because you are you, I am me. And for those of you looking at the screen right now, you can tell that I'm the old man and she's the beautiful young lady. So there is a big age difference. And we had this conversation earlier today, and I said, you know what, I I need to talk about this because number one, we have two different opinions on a lot of things, but they we always meet in the middle, which is pretty cool. And uh, for somebody like you, lower 20s, you should have a five-year plan. Do you? Um or are you already assuming that you know this is gonna be a disappointment?

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Yeah, this is this is gonna be this is gonna be rough, everyone. Um uh I I don't. I I'm not gonna lie, I I graduated college last year and then a year ahead of time, too, right?

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. So good for you.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah. It's I've I'm pretty proud of that.

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I go like when I was going, I'd probably still be going.

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That's funny. Um, but yeah, I I wanted in and out, I got out, and then I was like, I don't know, I guess for a really long time when you're a kid, you you look up to that moment where you get to go to college and you get to like learn or you get to like prepare for your career. And because there was so much uh hype around me, like going into my career that when I finally got to it, I was like, holy shit, like this is real life, like this is happening, and yeah, I have you gotta, and then you also learn like you have complete free will, like I can do whatever I want throughout my day. Um yeah, so exactly, exactly.

SPEAKER_01:

You kind of, I don't know, but you're thinking ahead a little bit. I know I've mentioned this before to plant yourself in a and go in a certain direction.

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You know, I love what I do, I love everything involved with what I do. So I've always just wanted to do what I I loved. I never envisioned myself doing anything that I didn't love. You know what I mean? I don't want to spend the rest of my life doing work that makes me miserable. I just wanted to do something that I wholeheartedly loved. And I do love this. So as long as I get to keep doing it, I'm I'm going to. And I'm also one of those people, I want to learn every piece of it, you know, every piece of the industry, every way to like help yourself and in this industry and stuff like that. So um, I just want to continue to learn. I want to continue to grow. And as long as I'm continuing to do that, I think I'm going in the right path.

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You know what worries me though? Because you have your goals, you have your passion, you have your dedication, and you go and you're hoping all this is gonna happen. Maybe you're a little impatient because you want it to happen now, but I'm afraid that, and I think I mentioned this this afternoon that you you you try for so long, and still, if nothing is really panning out, that you could lose interest. But do not lose interest because nothing happens overnight. And it's hard to explain it to somebody like you. But when you get to be like me, I uh, you know what, people my age, they underthink everything. Uh we wake up, something hurts, and we go, oh, I guess this is my personality now. But uh, you know, I'm just saying there's that that's the difference. And um, it takes a lot of time. I mean, I I can tell you that. Been there, done that, still doing it.

SPEAKER_03:

So, but I will say, I think like relationships like ours are beneficial in those circumstances because I have someone like you to like humble me and be like, Reagan, girl, you're getting way way ahead of yourself. Like, you need to reel it in, or you're someone that's you're always gonna be like, Reagan, you're doing a great job, like you're doing phenomenal. So I know I can rely on you for that. And I know like you've mentioned before that like I'm so passionate about what I'm doing, and I love this so much that it's it's contagious, you know what I mean? And it's it's hard for me to do all of this and not like inspire Skip or make him be like, think a little bit. So I think surrounding yourself with the I don't know, surrounding yourself with the energy that helps you.

SPEAKER_01:

And then this is I'm glad you're saying this because I know there's so many other young men and women your age that are thinking, like, what am I gonna do? Where am I gonna go? How can I do this? You know, uh, whether you went to college or not, there's always there's something out there for everybody. Um, and what you're saying is, you know, you can do it. You just you gotta have the passion and dedication, and you you've put everything you have into it.

SPEAKER_03:

So yeah, and a lot of people settle. I think it's because they get comfortable. It's I don't want to say it's easier, but I think that there's a lot of distractions in life. You know, it's hard to work on your career if you have family stuff, if you have health stuff, if you have relationships. Relationships. There's a whole lot of other stuff that happens outside of your work. So for some people, like their personal life is their priority. So that's where where they're gonna go. That's what they're gonna focus on.

SPEAKER_01:

Let me ask you from somebody being my age asking you, uh what did you think adulthood would be like?

SPEAKER_03:

Well, one thing I'm gonna say right off the bat is that when I was younger, I thought like all adults just knew better. You know what I mean? Like, I just was like, every adult knows. And now that I'm grown, I like realize like some adults like become adults, but they don't ever like grow up if you're picking up what I'm putting down. Like they may around me too much, mature, they never like get to a certain point, they're like, Yeah, true. So I think I don't know. I really used to think like a lot, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, no, I get it. I get it.

SPEAKER_03:

Just yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

One time I thought adulthood would mean confidence.

SPEAKER_03:

And I think, yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

I don't know. What it really means is being calm while having no idea of what's happening.

SPEAKER_03:

I also used to think it was like intelligence, like you used to know, like you just know.

SPEAKER_01:

You just and nobody probably warns you how many uh decisions you have to make every day and how how wrong has you been.

SPEAKER_03:

That's hilarious that you mentioned that because I was literally talking to one of my friends. I was talking to one of my friends the other day, and we were talking we were we were gonna go out, and I was like, I just don't know what to wear. Like, I just I hate having to pick out my outfit. This is like almost as hard as deciding what I want to eat for dinner. Like these decisions are just so difficult. Of course, I I was just being sarcastic and being silly, but reflecting on it, I was like, no, seriously, like we have to make so many bigger decisions. We have to decide. I mean, you have to make a decision the second you get up in the morning. Do you get up or do you lay in bed?

SPEAKER_01:

You know, you well, I just hope I get up.

SPEAKER_03:

I know.

SPEAKER_01:

Maybe you know you're gonna get up. I hope I get up.

SPEAKER_03:

You're gonna get up.

SPEAKER_01:

I know he's gonna get up. I'm kidding, I'm kidding. But uh, yeah, and you know, when you hit you when you get to be uh, you know, a little bit older like me, you you kind of you see how fast time speeds up once your calendar fills up, too. It's crazy. And every day, for me now the the days are going by so fast, the weeks are going by so fast.

SPEAKER_03:

It's just it's kind of like what John Williams said. Life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer you get to the end, the faster.

SPEAKER_01:

I'll never forget that.

SPEAKER_03:

I'll never forget that either. That was one of the best lines I've I've ever heard. So I'm gonna bring that up.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, life doesn't get easier, you just get better at carrying it. Remember that? It's pretty cool, huh? Mm-hmm. And that toilet toilet paper roll.

SPEAKER_03:

Kind of thinking about what I just said, because you're older and like I said something that somebody else said that's older than me. Are you to the point in your life where you're just like, I have my own lines and I get laughed at? Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

Because I, you know, the some of the things I say, it's probably like, uh, that my dad used to say that, you know, this or that. But now, you know, I mean, I've I've caught on. I I think I'm pretty hip. I think if that's a word to use.

SPEAKER_03:

You can use that word. That'll work. Yeah, that'll work.

SPEAKER_01:

Wait a minute, is that dope?

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

Okay.

SPEAKER_03:

That's pretty fire.

SPEAKER_02:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

I love it. So, I mean, but that's you guys, I say you guys, but you and your friends, your circle. You're like, hey, that's dope. That's fire. Yeah, that's you know.

SPEAKER_03:

That's lit.

SPEAKER_01:

Um I'm like, I'm like, yeah, that's cool. Or I could go, or I go, yeah, it's groovy.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, we wouldn't have to be. No, I would never say that.

SPEAKER_01:

I haven't said that since 70s. No, I I don't know. Ask your mom about it. No, I don't know.

SPEAKER_03:

Maybe because your parents were born in the 70s.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, okay. Well, then I don't know. Maybe they learned to talk saying the word groovy. I don't know. But uh his dad's first word.

SPEAKER_02:

Groovy.

SPEAKER_01:

Your dad's? Mm-hmm. It was? Are you are you being serious with me?

SPEAKER_03:

Groovy and hippie. Is your dad a hippie? No.

SPEAKER_01:

No?

SPEAKER_03:

No, I don't think he's no, probably not.

SPEAKER_01:

Probably not.

SPEAKER_03:

No, I'm the most hip in the f in my family.

SPEAKER_01:

That's cool. I can understand that. Yeah. I get it.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, I used to burn incense, and they'd be like, that's enough. That's enough. It's not too strong.

SPEAKER_01:

You know, I saw a thing online today. As a matter of fact, my wife was in it. And uh, I might have showed it to you with the thing with the Syracuse Mets. She works at the Mets. And they did a video clip of what would you say to your younger self? But the problem is everybody but my wife were your age. So what would you, you know, it's like how would I say to my younger self? Yeah, but I mean, you are young. I guess I don't know, growing up, let's say be what would you say to your younger self being I I don't even know how to say this because you're already, you're you are young. But when you say younger self, where does that what are you talking? 17, 18?

SPEAKER_03:

No, I think of like little girl Ray. Like I think like me being like maybe in like first to third grade. Okay. Like I guess like the age when like you really I don't know.

SPEAKER_01:

Interesting.

SPEAKER_03:

I just start to like you know, like I feel like there's a point in all of our lives where we don't self-reflect, you know, we're kids, you you kind of just live life ruthlessly and you don't really care, and you just say what's on your mind, and then there's a point where you like kind of think about what you say, and if that makes sense, you know, you kind there's like a moment of reflection, and I would go back to that moment and I would say, Don't listen to that. But then there's another part of me that's like, I feel like everything like I I did, I don't know.

SPEAKER_01:

Gotcha.

SPEAKER_03:

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I mean, is there something?

SPEAKER_03:

Because I mean, what do you when you think of your younger self? What do you think?

SPEAKER_01:

Who's I don't know if I remember. No, I'm just kidding. Uh my younger self, I don't I don't know. I'd be like, dude, what were you thinking? What it just, you know what? I did so many stupid things, so many things that were wrong, and it just it got me into a lot of trouble. It got me, but you know, maybe at the time I thought it was cool, I was doing it right.

SPEAKER_03:

But do you think it made you a better person?

SPEAKER_01:

You know what? I'm gonna say yes. And yeah, and I'll I'll tell you why, because you learned from those mistakes. Uh yeah, they cost me, I'm sure. I've been in trouble before. I uh I've never been in, I've never gone to jail or anything that like that. But I mean, personal life and relationships, and I did a lot of stupid things. So, and then you know, I go back and I think it's like, why? How come? What was I thinking? You know what? I needed to grow up. I needed to grow up, is what I needed to do. I have no idea who's running, but there we go. Never mind. So um, yeah, I just needed to grow up.

SPEAKER_03:

That's you know, so and that's but you had to go through those trials and tribulations in order to know what growing up meant. Yes, knowing or hence you wouldn't have you wouldn't have grown up.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, I don't want to dwell on this too much because I I I know we're gonna run out of time here pretty quick. I don't want to go on too long, but like we were talking today, and I was, you know, we got into a pretty good conversation about you being you, me being me. And I said, you know what, you got everything going for you right now. So you make sure you get your priorities straight. And I said, whatever you do, wait till your middle 30s before you get straight. Yes, you know what, because I can tell you my experience, been there, done that, thinking I was grown up, I wasn't grown up. And if you don't have a chance to experience life, the ups and downs and the breakups and the heart, you know, all the heartbreak and love and maybe losing a couple of jobs or whatever in the radio business, which happens quite often. Um but sorry. Uh yeah, that's right. No, no, it's not like it used to be. Yeah, it's not like it's used to be. I think most of that is over. But uh still, you know, you need to experience a lot of that to realize what life is all about. And then you know what? Everything will fall into place. Everything will fall. That's I'm not a life coach, I'm not a therapist, but I'm just telling you that it will, it will fall into place. And I'm so proud of you because, and anybody watching this, if you if you follow us on the podcast, you'll see, you'll watch this young lady grow in a lot of different ways. No, seriously. Yeah, for doing something you're doing this, and you, you know, you jumped right into it and you started out, you did all right. But you know, week after week after week, you kind of grow. And the same thing with me, it never stops. You know, it never stops. You get what I'm saying? Do you still love me?

SPEAKER_03:

Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01:

I know, but I'm just saying he's always gotta make things so philosophical, and so how then you know what that I never talked like this.

SPEAKER_03:

If you were to I wonder if it's because you're old that you feel like wise, and you're like, you know.

SPEAKER_01:

I'm until you're not. Did you just call me old?

SPEAKER_03:

No.

SPEAKER_01:

Overlooking that. Okay, all right.

SPEAKER_03:

But like, do you know what I mean? Like you, like you said, you've experienced life, you've gone through trials and tribulations. Like, do you think like there's like it's beneficial? I don't know, like you sharing and being there and like supporting another person in that way, or saying, like, you know, like you are doing good, and you should, you know, like I feel I'm doing really good now.

SPEAKER_01:

At this point in my career, everything is good. As you can see, you come in here, this is all mine. Um, I brought you in. Um, I feel I'm doing really, really good. Things that worry me is what's gonna happen down the road. Uh, things that worry me, uh, will my son be taken care of? Things uh my retirement, if if and so, if that ever happens. Um but see, I love what I do. So, you know what I mean? Those are things that's on my mind, as opposed to what would be on your mind right now, being who you are, that's the another difference. You know, these are things I'm worried about. Your priority is you know, get started.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah, find new, yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

And then, you know, getting started family down the road, maybe a house, maybe this and that. I'm over that. We're over that hump. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

So yeah.

SPEAKER_03:

I'm like because I'm old. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

Don't agree. I'm just kidding. No, it's great conversation. And uh, you know, we started this off tonight. We talked, well, of course, with the Grammys, and then we we came down and talked about uh, you know, well, Savannah Guthrie, we did that tonight, and uh just uh we just a great conversation. This is what we do. We do this at least once a week. Uh we get together, skip happens, and uh because in life we all know that skip happens and you're beginning to experience it. I've been through it, good, bad, and different. We have a lot of the same interests, but we have a lot of different interests, so which makes it really good. It's what it's about, right? Yeah, yeah. Exactly. So here's what you gotta do. You need to go online when you uh you're gonna be watching this, you need to subscribe to Skip Happens.

SPEAKER_00:

Yes.

SPEAKER_01:

Uh, and uh, of course, you can follow us online as well. Uh just uh Facebook Skip Happens on YouTube, uh, Miss Ray's on Facebook, I'm on Facebook. You know what? We'd love to if you got something you'd like to hear us talk about or you want to get involved in a conversation, uh, go to skiphappens uh podcast.com and uh you can just fill out the little form there and we'll be in touch.

SPEAKER_03:

Yeah. Okay.

SPEAKER_01:

All right. You good?

SPEAKER_03:

Yes, I'm good.

SPEAKER_01:

All right, thank you for watching, everybody. It's been another edition of Skip Happens. I'm Skip Clark, and that is I'm Miss Ray. Have yourself a great night. Peace out, everybody. Good night, everyone. Cameras move. I'm over here. All right, good night, everybody. Thanks for watching.

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